November 18, 2008

3 Types of People

Filed under: deep reflections — Reb Moshe @ 5:08 am

You have 3 types of people that act in a certain way in all situations of life. For example, we will use the wash basin at the mikvah. One type of person will just wash his hands and not even give a second thought to filling up the basin again after he is finished. This type of person, I can’t heal through my teachings of Torah. They need a far greater teacher. The next type of person is the guy who after he washes his hands, automaticly fills up the basin again without thinking twice. This person I can’t heal either because he doesn’t need me, he is far advanced and happy is his lot. Then you have the person who washes his hands and thinks to himself, should I fill up the basin for the next guy. In most situation he doesn’t but sometimes he does. This is who I can try to help heal and teach Torah too. These are the people I can relate too and together we can grow close to Hashem.


  1. hmmm

    Comment by Asa Yitzchak — November 18, 2008 @ 6:07 am

  2. Hmmm, good that means your a thinker, you can stay!

    Comment by Reb Moshe — November 18, 2008 @ 6:24 am

  3. You know there are people who fall into the catagory of filling up the wash basin without thinking twice but even they question themselves if they really do it properly. They ask themselves, did I do it wholeheartedly. These people, I can simply give them the passwords too all the ilovetorah pages.

    Comment by Reb Moshe — November 18, 2008 @ 6:26 am

  4. Sometimes i fill it up. But usually, I’m concerned they may think it unfit for use and dump it out anyway.

    When I see a person full the cup, I usually use it if he’s there, dump it out if he’s not.

    Comment by Yonason Shlomo — November 21, 2008 @ 5:35 am

  5. I never fill up the washing cup in the sink. Hillel taught us, “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow man.” I hate using stagnant water that has been sitting out in a cup for G-d knows how long. In fact, sometimes it sits out overnight like that, and we cautioned against using such water. So, if I hate it myself, surely I must not do that to my fellow man.

    I think I get the point you were trying to make, Reb Moshe. I certainly try to help others whenever I can. I just don’t think filling up the “nagel vasser” is a good example.

    Comment by Adam — November 21, 2008 @ 10:54 pm

  6. If you feel this way about the water being disgusting, certainly, it is a chesed for you not to fill it up if you believe others might think this way as well. Whenever I see a filled up cup, i think to myself, I wish I could be like the person who left it here for another. I think filling up the cup is a good lesson in humility if done when nobody is looking.

    Comment by Reb Moshe — November 23, 2008 @ 4:29 am

  7. I am sorry, but I do not necessarily share your spiritual insight into this. If I come across a filled vessel for my use – especially if I didn’t see it being filled up – I tip out its contents, since that person has deprived me of the mitzvah of drawing the wster myself – as in: ushavtem mayim b’sasson.
    Also, because mayim is the subject of so much mashal, a person can come to learn many things from every aspect of netilat yadayim – whether minhag or halachah. Especially all the halachot and holy minhagim regarding contact with the tap itself. The minhag in most of the places in which I learned Torah(including Tomchei Tmimim), was to not fill the vessel after you.
    Also, our sages tell us in many places that physical water can contain many complex spiritual energies – which is why the netilat yadyim shel boker water is left under the bed so as not to be exposed overnight. Exposed water can chas v’shalom be dangerous. And ultimately, if we use water we should always be fully conscious of its source. The source should never be just the kli.
    (Thus, if one acts k’din in a makom tzibbur one will distance himself from judging people and being judged – but this requires tremendous hakpadah and only when one does not internalise judegementality against those who do not behave with chesed. (Din b’ma’aseh v’chesed b’midotav or chesed b’ma’aseh v’din b’midotav) Otherwise it is best to act bigvul hachesed which has the potential to bestow an even higher level of chesed – because it is based on Torah. These are the twelve gvulot of malchut – which are completely metukot. v’dai lameivin.)
    However, since you are suggesting filling the cup for people leaving the kvarim of tsaddikim, and espcially when done b’tzinah, then the next person to use that water might be those very tzaddikim themselves – Peace be upon them – who seek to wash their hands after rising in tchiyat hameitim… which would be a different matter..they might just appreciate the thought.

    Comment by ?????? — December 9, 2008 @ 2:26 am

  8. I am not speaking about filling up the vessle for netilas yadaim, that is something that should be done by the person themselves for halachic reasons. But the point of filling up the vessle for people other times shows that you are always thinking about someone else. I still stand by this post and believe that this is very important. Here in Israel, most people are not that sensitive and would always use the water left for them not finding it discusting as some of you feel. I think whenever you are in a place and someone will follow in your steps, you should think to make the path easier. If that means shoveling snow from your car and not pushing it away from other cars or kicking a rock off the sidewalk, then this trains a person in thinking outside themselves.
    Just as the Torah teaches not to leave a stubling block before the blind, so too, we should always clear the way for others to follow.

    Comment by Reb Moshe — December 9, 2008 @ 2:36 am

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