It was my experience as a teen that people seem not to be
supportive of your ideas and dreams. It is as if everyone has a plan
for you and expectations and even if yours are higher, they are
wrong or not good enough. Why is this?
Well it is unfortunate but the reality that I have found is that
those closest too us seem to have the most difficulty to stand
beside us. It is almost as if they totally do not believe in us. How
can this be when these are people we care about and whom we thought
to have cared about us? Maybe the truth is that they are the ones
who are not happy with themselves and through seeing your success,
of course, only in the ways they feel are important, they will be
able to overlook their own mistakes.
Whatever the reason though, we still have the same problem. How
can I get others to believe I can accomplish my goals and dreams.
Not only this, why do they stand in my way? It would be difficult
enough even if I had their support.
Well my advice is that you do not settle for friends like this
but continue to search and be around people who will support you.
This is a necessary ingredient for success. I never really had this
in my childhood. Few believed in me and I have to do it all by
myself. This worked for a while but eventually, I found myself
leading an empty life. It wasn't until I met the Nikolsberg Rebbe
that things changed for me. You see, he was one of the first people
that believed in me and made me feel that I could attain all my
dreams through prayer and hard work. It was through this strong
personage beside me, looking only at my good points and potential
that I was able to continue to have the strength to prevail in my
Not only this but a few years later, I stubbed upon the teachings
of Rebbe Nachman, in which, he speaks about how every person can
become a Tzaddik and Talmud Chachom. I had never heard such a thing
before in yeshivos, shirim, Jewish classes and the like. People
always spoke about how important the mitzvah of learning Torah was
but never did they tell me that I could be come a Rabbi, Rebbe,
Teacher and the like.
Then eventually I met my kallah, wife whom continued to support
So my dear friends, maybe you don't have the support you seek at
the moment but if you continue to persevere, it will come. You must
know that every wall can be broken. A Jews mazel can always change
and their is no accomplishment in Yiddishkite that is beneath you.
Hashem gave you the ability to rise above all challenges and all