July 28, 2008

Fathers never tell

Filed under: What can we do? — Reb Moshe @ 2:18 am

I think us dads know that should we be found it, should our wives know we secretly give sugar treats to the kids, we could be finished. But how else are we supposed to make up for the unfair advantage the women has over the kids. You know, it breaks our hearts every time one of the kids screams in pain and runs to mommy passing over daddy’s outstretched arms. All we want is equal love. A fair chance to be there when they really need us.


  1. It hurts me too when it happens to me. And it happens all the time. Women have different types of emotional and physical pain (childbirth) that we men don’t have. So it probably all balances out. But, yes it still hurts. But it’s the way Hashem made the briyah.

    Comment by Abba — July 28, 2008 @ 11:44 pm

  2. Reb Moshe,

    It also teaches us men how to be more sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. Now we know better what it feels like to be unwanted, dissed, rejected, ignored…so that we’ll be more sensitive not to do it to others. Women are generally more sensitive to others’ feelings in these ways than men are. So maybe Hashem made the briyah like this in order to teach us men how to be more sensitive to others.

    Comment by Abba — July 29, 2008 @ 1:17 am

  3. great points, glad i posted this

    Comment by Reb Moshe — July 29, 2008 @ 1:33 am

  4. You’re monthly $36 donation button doesn’t work. Only the $18 one does.

    Comment by Abba — July 29, 2008 @ 1:42 am

  5. that explains why nobody is donating this week! lol Well, maybe it is a bigger segular to hit double chai twice? I will check it out, thanks for the update.

    Comment by Reb Moshe — July 29, 2008 @ 1:46 am

  6. My closest loved ones taught me that “it’s a cold hard world.” (I don’t suspect ALL of them of being untrustworthy, but I have had my eyes opened.) I’ve come not to be surprised by disappointment in people. I ,myself, have changed and improved dramatically in my life, but I felt the need to overcome my shortcomings.

    I have Orthodox Jewish fiends who are self-centered. Where is the real hope for all people?

    Comment by Paul Chipkin — July 29, 2008 @ 4:43 am

  7. it is unfair!

    Comment by Asa Yitzchak — July 30, 2008 @ 7:28 am

  8. B”H

    Sh’lom dear Reb Mosche!
    Since everything a jew sees or hears would be used as a lesson how to serve better to Ha Shem blessed be He, maybe this episode with your little son was also smoe kind of a lesson to you. As far as I can see, in the past several weeks & months you are spending a lot of time contacting Tzaddikim (or visiting their graves), which is of course essential for a Chassid, but you are still spendig enough time in secluded meditating and talking to Ha Shem, aren’t you? 🙂 You were the one to remind (in the name of the saintly Rabbi Nachman of Breslov of blessed memory) in one of your great past videos of the importance of such type of meditation & prayers.
    Take care and all the best to you and the whole mishpacha! :))

    Comment by Teodor Todorov — August 3, 2008 @ 3:18 pm

  9. Yes you picked up on something but you also missed something. I have traveled to more kevarim then most anyone in the last few years and at these places I made torah videos and teachings. When I was there, I never really had time to pray for myself or recite tehillim. I ran home to edit them or to the next site to do another video. So, for me to go to the graves now and pray to Hashem, is something totally new. Even now though, I remind myself to pray for everyone else and the Shechinah. As I have spoken elsewhere, if you pray for the Shechinah and the Jewish people, you are within that prayer as well. At the same time, I am trying to increase my own hisbobidus, self-reflection now, since in the past, it wasn’t something I had a lot of time for. Something I gave up for the important work I was doing. In a way, this was the first time I was ever really at some of these places.

    Comment by Reb Moshe — August 4, 2008 @ 1:19 am

  10. B”H

    Sh’lom dear Reb Moshe,
    it was just a guess. As far as I can see, you are a man with an incredible strong wish to help every jew around the globe to come close to Ha Shem. But there is a danger to get exhausted or to get depressed. (The work is a lot..) I just wanted to be sure that you don’t forget to pray for your own needs too. Since the wise ones have said, that the first to help is the “poor” in you own town. If you are ok, than you’ll have more strenght to accomplish the important task you are in.
    Take care and Sh’lom. We are praying for you too. 🙂

    Comment by Teodor Todorov — August 4, 2008 @ 10:06 am

  11. Dear Reb Moshe:

    I would guess that must be a picture of your new daughter? She is very pretty. If it is one of your sons, he is cute.

    Robin Margolis

    Comment by Robin Margolis — October 2, 2008 @ 5:40 am

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