May 19, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Marriage
1. It takes two humble people to make a marriage successful.
2. Marriage is about giving to another and then having children to give too.
3. If you don’t have peace with yourself, it is difficult to have with another, especially a spouse that sees all your flaws and mistakes.
4. Love that comes quickly is flawed. One that builds over time is strong and real.
5. In marriage you will be faced many times to give up many of your desires in order to make someone else happy in that process, their desires might need to come before your own.
6. Being a step ahead of your spouses needs goes a long way to providing a healthy home.
7. If there is no peace in the home, children grow up with many confusions and anger.
8. We push away from our spouse when we need them the most because we don’t feel like they care and thereby we create a chain reaction and we need them all the more.
9. The holiness of one spouse effects the other.
10. Sometimes in marriage you have to do a lot of acting and pretending so the other partner doesn’t feel your sorrow and anger.
11. A depressed partner brings grief to their spouse and children.
12. Your spouse may never truly appreciate you so sometimes you need to find their appreciation within yourself in order to carry on.
13. Don’t go to sleep or leave your home with anger.
14. Being able to say your sorry even if you don’t mean it yet, is the start to a meaningful relationship.
15. When you realize that your spouses anxiety and pains are your own, then you can both start living.
16. It is important to eat meals together and go out of the house together with your spouse so that you feel like one unit.
17. Never threaten your spouse with separation and divorce unless you are serious because the pain you cause them is far worse then the pain you yourself feel now.
18. Do not discuss your marriage with family as it is impossible for them to be impartial and you cause an everlasting friction between your spouse and them.
Sefer Yom Leyom, Grace
1. A segulah for grace is to study torah while standing up.
2. If you do things hurried, you don’t always do them gracefully.
3. Being careful to be cleanly, helps a person to be graceful.
4. Connecting to the Tzaddik helps a person to have grace in their life.
5. If you are nervous, you will make mistakes and not act gracefully.
6. Happiness leads to doing things with grace.
7. If you over think something, you can cause the outcome to end ungracefully.
8. Daat, understanding helps a person to perform acts with grace.
9. Graceful people are blessed with many friends.
10. When the Shechinah is with you, everything you do is with grace.
11. Grace doesn’t always mean the outcome will be successful.
12. If you do things out of panic and desperation, the outcome will surely not be one of grace.
13. Exercising and keeping fit help a person to do things gracefully.
14. Prayer leads a person to acting graceful in all things.
15. The Torah is grace.
16. Realizing that everything comes from Hashem helps a person to live gracefully and happily.
17. Good smells help a person to be graceful.
18. Immersion in the mikvah gives gracefulness.
May 18, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Memory
1. The Torah that you learn here but forget should not worry you so much as it will be reminded to you in the next world.
2. A persons brain can retain more and more information should they be pure in thought.
3. Olive oil is a segulah for improving memory.
4. If your humble, your memory improves and can keep endless information.
5. Secular wisdom that is useless, clogs ones memory and thoughts of purity.
6. Should you keep a healthy diet, your memory and mind become more clear.
7. Stress and anxiety leads to forgetfulness.
8. The more Torah you study, the greater your memory will become and the more information you can hold inside your mind.
9. Worry leads to forgetfulness.
10. Eating with kavanah, reciting the blessings before and after meals with proper intentions leads to a vibrant memory.
11. Exercise helps a person to have a good memory and positive thoughts.
12. Forgetting things can help a person to put the past behind them so they are not haunted by their mistakes.
13. It is important to always remember the tefillin you are wearing and not forget you have them on.
14. Being near Tzaddikim restores your memory.
15. If you can’t remember things and you start to write them down regularly, eventually it will assist you in not forgetting in the first place and you won’t even need to take notes any longer.
16. A person who is organized with their life, possessions and schedule, has an easier time remembering things.
17. A quite place has the ability to help a person remember.
18. If you utilize your memory often to perform certain tasks, it will improve it and you will be able to recall matters very quickly.
Sefer Yom Leyom, Success
1. Your friends success should feel like your own.
2. A person is successful when other people study their Torah’s.
3. Till a person has children the age of chinuch, they don’t really have a successful life as teaching ones children and passing on the tradition of yiddishkite is what true completion of soul is all about.
4. A non Jew judges his success on what material things he has accumulated and the honors he has received. A Jew looks at what sefarim he has completed and his families portion in Torah and observance.
5. You can judge your success by the people you know and keep company with.
6. Only you and Hashem know your real attainments and merits.
7. The greatest success is when you have brought people back to Hashem and they perform many commandments which are then liken to your own merits.
8. When you care more about the Shechinah and her success then your own, then you know you have reached a pure level.
9. If your only worried about serving Hashem and not yourself, Hashem Himself will take care of your life that everything you do will be completed with grace and success.
10. Many people rely upon a person who is successful, that is for his financial or spiritual support.
11. The more successful you are, the more responsibilities you have.
12. You can’t be so successful if you haven’t yet reached Yiras Hashem.
13. Your limiting your attainments when you have pride after you accomplish things successfully.
14. Some people become depressed even after they have become successful, this is because their reasoning’s were not completely pure when performing the mitzvos and tasks.
15. If you give charity while performing a task, then it will surely be successful.
16. What is successful to one person may not be considered success to someone else. Therefore, don’t judge yourself based on other peoples opinions of success but base them upon your own goals and level.
17. If you attained many things but you still don’t know how to love others, you have attained nothing.
18. Share your success with others, otherwise, you truly can’t enjoy it.
Sefer Yom Leyom, Evil Thoughts
1. Evil thoughts come from food not recited with a proper blessing and who’s kosherous is questionable.
2. If you have an improper thought, the best thing is to change it quickly and not pay so much attention to it.
3. You have this wrongful thought in order to elevate it and remove it from the improper husks. It may not even be from the source of your soul, so just cast it off and thereby elevate it.
4. If we didn’t have an occasional bad thought, we wouldn’t appreciate the good thoughts we have as much.
5. A person who fears their thoughts lacks self confidence
6. Dwelling on an improper thought is like performing it. Ushering it away is synonymous to performing a good deed.
7. A person who is happy doesn’t incorporate the evil thoughts that come so he barely notices them and they are instantly elevated.
8. When faced with improper thoughts you can get rid of, perform a positive commandment and soon it will go away.
9. Hashem might have given us evil thoughts to test us with but he also gave us good thoughts to overcome them with.
10. Saying Shema and tehillim are great antidotes for confusing thoughts.
11. Thinking of fear of Hashem removes evil thoughts.
12. Evil thoughts and intentions are brought to the sage while he is praying in order for him to elevate them and remove them from the souls of others.
13. If you allow yourself to see something improper, it leads to evil thoughts coming to you later that day.
14. The sage that is near you doesn’t see that actual bad thought that you have, he just feels your soul slipping from kedusha. Fear not, it is better to be in his presence where he can help you then alone to fight it off by yourself.
15. Anxiety leads to external thoughts attacking you endlessly.
16. If you switch places, you might find the evil thoughts going away just from this simple action.
17. Should you surround yourself with holy people, you will find yourself having less negative thoughts.
18. Keeping shabbos and yom tov properly, removes negative thoughts and their performance from your mind.
May 15, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Seclusion
1. With practice you can seclude yourself with Hashem, even in a situation where you are surrounded by groups of people.
2. Going to the forest helps a person to seclude their thoughts with Hashem.
3. It is important every day to have some seclusion with Hashem where nobody else is around and it is quiet.
4. Doing hisbodidus meditation is the best form of seclusion with Hashem.
5. Too much seclusion isn’t healthy for a person.
6. Seclusion practiced with extremes can lead to depression and anxiety
7. Even if you seclude yourself, you can do this without separating yourself in your mind from the community of Israel. In fact, you can bind yourself even more strongly to others if your intentions are pure.
8. Your personal connection to Hashem should be more important to you then your friendships and be your main pursuit.
9. There are many levels of seclusion. Even simply staying away from politics, news, shopping and other unnecessary gatherings is a form of seclusion with Hashem.
10. To be close to Hashem, you have to give up many friendships and gatherings which you know will lead you to sin and wasting precious time.
11. Shabbos and Yom Tov is the best time to reap the benefits of seclusion.
12. The Yetzer Hara doesn’t want you to seclude yourself with Hashem because the benefits to your soul are unfathomable.
13. Practicing deep breathing from the diaphragm can help you clear your mind from confusions that want to keep you away from Hashem.
14. Placing your body in positions that close up the senses is beneficial for seclusion. For instance, having your arms cross and against you body closes more senses. Closing your fists, eyes, mouth and folding you legs.
15. Wearing tefillin, if worn properly, helps a person to connect to Hashem with all their mind and heart.
16. If your body is clean, (through showering or better yet, the mikvah) it is easier to connect to your soul.
17. The Prophets first played music and increased their joy before pursing meditation and seclusion. This is because joy helps in this elevation.
18. If you tense all your muscles and then release them with a deep breath, you remove anxiety and confusions, thereby simplifying your thoughts enabling you to seclude yourself with Hashem.
Sefer Yom Leyom, Sweetening judgment
1. Meditating on YKVK in white letters with the nikud of segel, sweetens judgment.
2. Immersing in the mikvah and being under the water a long time breaks evil decrees.
3. Happiness in what Hashem has given you, sweetens judgment.
4. Giving charity removes harsh decrees and brings you peace with your fellow man.
5. Saying the Psalms is the most valuable thing for sweetening judgment. It is best to say it after chatzos or during the daytime.
6. The Tikkun HaKlali, General Remedy is a great tikkun for the soul and removes the heaviness sins place on your body.
7. Dancing removes harsh decrees, elevating the Sefiros of Netzach and Hod to Binah.
8. Eating your meals at the table, fights all decrees that were written against you and Klal Yisrael.
9. Singing pure nigunim connects you to the Shechinah and sweetens judgment.
10. Going to the Diktat purposely to be in his presence, removes decrees.
11. Praying at the holy graves of Tzaddikim, removes judgment from your soul.
12. Giving to others can save your soul.
13. When being faced with sin and turning away, earns you a second chance and sweetens any current judgment against you.
14. Making a new beginning throughout the day after you fall down spiritually, sweetens judgment and leads to repentance.
15. A person can do many sins but until they speak loshon hara against another Jew, they are able to slip under the radar of judgment until they eventually repent on their own. However, the second they speak loshon hara, they are judged that evening.
16. If you make sure to be at peace with others, you will also have peace in Heaven. Always seek compromises and peace.
17. When you have anger, you increase the judgments against you.
18. Waking up at midnight to pray and study Torah removes ALL judgments against our National, it goes without saying, your own soul.
May 14, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Traveling
1. Every time you leave your home, you are like a traveler who needs the Shechinah to protect them. The world is a dangerous place physically and spiritually.
2. Traveling with others eases the pain of the journey.
3. Don’t travel extra if its not necessary. The main place for a person is in the Bais Medresh and at home with their family.
4. Going to see the Tzaddik through a long journey is beneficial for the soul.
5. When visiting the graves of our Sages, try to keep your journey simple as you will gain the most concentrating on one particular Rav.
6. If you travel with a friend and do not speak over torah. It would be better that you traveled alone.
7. It is important to leave on your journey with shalom.
8. Should you be extremely worried about your journey, maybe you should put it off to another time.
9. If you see that you are forced to travel somewhere, Hashem is leading you in exile hoping you will use this time to repent.
10. It is easier to sin while always from your normal surroundings.
11. Always make sure to eat and drink well during a journey as traveling weakens the body.
12. Be extra careful with your eyes not to look at improper things while traveling. Therefore, keep yourself busy with a book or something productive.
13. You always spend more then you originally planned during a journey.
14. If your not sure if you should go somewhere or not, open up a sefer first and then you will know if its right for you to leave.
15. Going to share in a mitzvah is a good reason to travel but leaving early is usually just as important.
16. Always make arrangements and a proper schedule of your trip before you set out on any journey.
17. A person that doesn’t have to travel so much should be very thankful.
18. The amount of time you waist traveling and the recovery time of the fatigue from your trip, should make you think twice about going on long excursions without weighing the consequences.
Sefer Yom Leyom, Wisdom
1. A wise person lacks nothing.
2. If you have true wisdom, you realize how little you know.
3. The end of wisdom is love of Hashem.
4. Open your heart and you will gain true wisdom.
5. The wise read many books and seek more knowledge.
6. An intelligent person worked very hard for his wisdom and you should respect him for his dedication to knowledge.
7. Wisdom alone without understanding isn’t as powerful. Understanding comes from experience.
8. People that are wise in Torah beyond their years may have a very pure heart.
9. Think of YKVK with the nikud _ _ _ _ and _++_ to gain wisdom.
10. Being wise means to know how to fill your soul with new knowledge at the level it can receive at and not seek that which is beyond its capabilities.
11. If your wise, you do all actions with balance.
12. Too much worldly knowledge without the majority knowledge being of Torah, leads a person to second guess Hashem.
13. Doing things with a hurried step, walking, speaking, eating and more, cause you to loose wisdom.
14. If you have a warehouse full of wisdom and have no way to empty it to others, for what purpose does it have?
15. A wise person realizes how valuable time is.
16. Always keep some of your wisdom hidden from the world. If you give it all away, you will feel completely empty.
17. A truly wise person doesn’t see others as stupid but rather someone they can also learn something from.
18. A lazy person doesn’t care about wisdom and their inner world is one of loneliness.
May 13, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Modesty
1. When a person is modest, they have fear of Hashem.
2. If being modest is difficult for you, try to rid yourself of pride.
3. Modesty will save you from friends that anyway wouldn’t be of benefit for your soul.
4. If your modest, you will make less mistakes.
5. Don’t be afraid to dress modesty as you shouldn’t concern yourself with other peoples options if your intentions are good.
6. Be modest but don’t draw special attention to yourself thereby.
7. Don’t judge another person solely on their dress.
8. A persons modesty can save them from troubles.
9. Be modest in the way you talk to others.
10. A quiet voice is more modest and humble.
11. Talk less about yourself and listen more to others.
12. Some colors are more modest then others.
13. Don’t jump to fast to wear extremely modest clothing if your not yet ready for this step.
14. You can fool others but you can’t fool Hashem and yourself with your modesty.
15. If your inside isn’t like your outside, this can draw more evil your way then just being yourself. However, the outside is an important place to start when making positive changes that will eventually effect the inside soon after.
16. There is no real excuse to dressing immodestly. It not only effects you but compromises the thoughts of others.
17. Being on top of the latest fashions isn’t a modest way to live.
18. Try to dress and act more modestly in your home when nobody is watching you, then you can truly grow inside and out.
Sefer Yom Leyom, A persons Home
1. Having a home makes a person feel secure.
2. It is important to take care of ones dwelling and not let it fall apart.
3. The cleaner a persons home is kept, the more clear there thoughts are.
4. Check your mezuzos more often then required.
5. The blessing in a persons home comes from the women.
6. Don’t acquire a home that you can’t afford as it will never really feel like yours when you have the weight of bills on your shoulders.
7. Make sure that your home is near to the mikvah and synagogue you wish to pray in.
8. Be sure that the home you wish to buy or rent will not require constant upkeep.
9. It only takes one difficult neighbor to make your life stressful.
10. Never trust your landlord or tenant as when it comes to money, people can change at the last moment.
11. Lighting olive oil returns the Shechinah into your home.
12. It is important not to compromise when it comes to having a home with windows that bring in air and light.
13. Having simchas inside your home for your family and others brings down blessing.
14. Owning a home in Eretz Yisrael brings a person ohlom Habah.
15. Make sure your home is filled with practical items rather then things that are just for materialistic values.
16. Make sure the Torah is studied every night in your home.
17. Its important to study Torah in the home besides going out to the Bais Medresh so that the wife and family can feel its sanctity more personally.
18. If there is fighting in the home, the Satan dwells with you. Through humility peace will be restored and the home will be filled with light again.
May 12, 2014
Sefer Yom Lyom, Hospitality
1. A person never forgets those who are hospitable to them.
2. Having many guests leads to a prolonged life.
3. It is very good for self-growth to care for another in your home for even a simple drink of water.
4. When you have a guest, be sure to serve your best food and drinks. Hashem will give it back in other ways.
5. If Hashem sees that you care for others enough to invite them into your home when you don’t have even enough for yourself, how can He not be forced to them provide more?
6. Being hospitable can also mean sharing ones seat on the bus, your phone, pen or any item which may be of value if shared to another.
7. When you have guests, it ushers the Shechinah into your home.
8. Guests have the ability to remove sadness from your household.
9. Having guests stay too long at your home can bring confusion to members of your house. It is good to have guests but not allow them to overstay their welcome.
10. Don’t have so many guests if it will cause you shalom bayis issues.
11. It is one thing to allow someone to stay at your home, it is another to make them feel so comfortable that its like they are in their own dwelling.
12. A person who is staying at someone’s home sometimes feels shame to ask for their needs. Try to be a step ahead of them and prepare for the things they may be too embarrassed to ask.
13. If possible, try to treat your guest to the level they are usually accustomed too.
14. Don’t leave your guest alone too much as sometimes its difficult to travel and accompaniment and talking to a friend can be very comforting.
15. Many times people leave their guests sitting there alone in the middle of a shabbos meal while they attend to the children and food. It is best that at least one family member stay with the guest to engage in conversation.
16. When your guest is over, be sure to talk with them about subjects they enjoy and bring Hashem and Torah into the conversation. A person of wisdom can speak about anything and draw into the conversation words of wisdom from Hashem.
17. Having guests is a segulah for children.
18. Try not to make your guests feel like they are a burden to you.
Sefer Yom Lyom, Truth
1. If you have to think twice if something is truthful or not, probably it isn’t.
2. Truth is 100%, 90% truth is completely false.
3. Binding to the Tzaddik helps you to want to be truthful.
4. It is important to be truthful because it helps you acknowledge Hashem’s Oneness.
5. Most of the world is filled with falseness and people making believe they are truthful.
6. You can’t become a truthful person overnight, you have to work on it for a long period of time and build upon it.
7. If your around many truthful people, the character trait will also rub off on you and visa versa.
8. Inner truthfulness comes first before you can be truthful to others.
9. You will find many times during your life that you are left with a choice to either take money or be truthful and let it go. This could even be with a simple task like paying for the mikvah.
10. Hashem takes care of truthful people till their very last day.
11. People that are trustworthy are easily recognizable by the way they speak
12. If you are truthful, your children will also follow this path.
13. Involvement in politics confuses a person so that they can’t differentiate between truth and falseness.
14. If your involved in the mida of trustfulness, you realize that you require much less materialism.
15. Sometimes our emotions can hide the real truth.
16. If you want to know if something is true, open up a sefer and study Torah. Afterwards, meditate on the subject and you will know if its from the side of holy or unpure.
17. Ask the Tzaddik if you confused as their connection to trustfulness will guide you in only a good direction that at the very end, shall lead to success. Sometimes this can take years to manifest.
18. Having Tikkun Habris leads a person to ways of truth.
May 11, 2014
Sefer Yom Leyom, Torah Study
1. The greatest way to spend ones time is through Torah study. If your bored, just study Torah as it will sooth your soul far more then extracurricular activities.
2. The temptation to stop because of lives responsibilities will certainly be there, However, things have a way of working out when you study Torah.
3. When you own your sustenance through your own hands and then study Torah with the benefits, it far outweighs living off of others.
4. Always make sure to enjoy what your learning as information retained with joy stays with you longer.
5. Torah study is the best medicine for anxiety and stress.
6. If you want to study Torah, you have to not let anything get in your way.
7. The key to understanding Torah is to study it in order to give it over to others.
8. Teach yourself how to meditate on the Torah that you learn as the posik says, Meditate on the Torah day and night. Therefore, it must study also in a way to deeply meditate on it.
9. People always jump ahead of their level of Torah study. A little is good part of the time but one should mostly learn at the level they are at so they can slowly climb with a solid Torah foundation.
10. First learn all of Tanach, then Mishna, then Talmud, and only then Kabbalah. Always learn mussar or chassidus along side your regular study as it will increase your desire and devekus for Hashem.
11. It is very important to learn Ayin Yaakov because the stories of the Talmud will stay with you wherever you go.
12. Torah study without any halachic study is a very naive way to serve Hashem.
13. Try to start at the beginning and make sure to finish the Torah books that you start.
14. Learning all books of the Torah slowly doesn’t build up your Torah knowledge as well as a person who studies quicker and then has time to review a book multiple times.
15. Make sure to learn every sefer 3x in the course of a few years. When you do this, you own the book and it is as if you yourself wrote it.
16. It is important to study in a Bais Medresh but also at home. Because when you study at home, you bring sanctity to your family.
17. Connect yourself to the sage as you read over their sayings. Bind yourself to their soul root as much as you understand.
18. Torah study and prayer go hand in hand. Increase both together so that they can both work for your benefit.
Sefer Yom Lyom, Sages / Tzaddikim
1. Hashem gives us Sages to help guide us through all of our troubles, yet we are afraid to approach and bother them. When Hashem said that he gave us a yetzer hara and the antidote, he meant that he gave us the Tzaddikim. So we can’t aford to be scared of them.
2. When we come to the Tzaddikim, we too are helping them with our presence and support.
3. The sages are attached to both worlds so when we visit the Tzaddik, we get a taste of the World to Come.
4. If you can’t seem to come close to the Tzaddik, become closer to his students and they will open the channels to the Sage so that you can draw closer to him.
5. Don’t underestimate the blessing of the Tzaddik and be sure to have faith in his blessing.
6. Every Jew has the spark of a Tzaddik inside him, he just has to bring it out.
7. The sage has the ability to draw down blessing to Israel, it is just very difficult to channel this blessing directly to a person as there might be many factors in his way.
8. If you can’t study Torah, support a sage who can.
9. Just being in the presence of a sage is enough, even if you haven’t the ability to talk with him.
10. If a holy Rabbi knows you won’t listen to him anyways, he might feel it is better to tell you less.
11. People often underestimate the sages that are near to them, often seeking answers elsewhere when the answers they are seeking are much closer by.
12. The followers of the sage give him energy to fix the world.
13. It is important to pray with the sage as you not only help yourself but help him open the gates of Heaven.
14. Love the sage unconditionally as many times you will be disappointed as you can’t possibly understand him from your vantage point.
15. Pray to Hashem that you meet the perfect Tzaddik that is for you.
16. People don’t often respect sages that aren’t their personal Rabbi but they too should be revered.
17. Try to find sages that aren’t so involved in political matters as their involvement might confuse you and you might miss the importance of simple Torah observance.
18. Spreading the teachings of your Rabbi draws you closer to his root and you will gain significantly from this.